Isn't the announcement the same now whether you DA or are Df'd ? In either case I am pretty sure the announcement is the same ," so and so is no longer one of Jehovah's Witnesses "
troubled mind
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Did you DF yourself on purpose?
by Evidently Apostate inlately i have been thinking about saying something apostate to my elder father in law.
he is an uber witness and actually believed that god interveined and saved him when he had a heart attack and kept him alive, until he told me that and i asked him why jehovah allowed jws in nazi concentration camps to suffer horribly and die but he loved an alcoholic more than them.. i havent been to a kh in 6 months or in service in years.
i grew a beard and basicallyhe avoids talking to me.
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What was the first thing you did...
by OneDayillBeFree inwhen you left the man-made organization currently known as the wtbts??.
and for those still "in" but mentally "out" what have you started doing thats against the silly, stupid and non-scriptural watchtower policy/law/rule??.
i know the question has been made before on another thread but i couldn't find it and also there's been quite some growth in new ones here to jwn, so just wanted to see if we could all share some lovely/funny/random experiences.
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troubled mind
I started celebrating birthdays and holidays right away ,because it felt good and right to share love with my friends and family . Starting going out with friends from work which meant going to bars (oh my) ,and did things other adults do for fun .
One of the very first things i did was tell my Doctor to take the NO BLOOD information out of my records , and then I went out and registered to vote .
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Should we attend our first Birthday Party?
by Flicka inso we have only been fading for the past few months but already made up our minds that we are completely out.
we never managed to make any friends in our cong but we befriended our neighbours.. so our neighbour invited us to her b-day party in a few weeks time.
she knows that we are/were witnesses and that we are fading.. i don't see a b-day celebration as being wrong anymore.
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troubled mind
GO !!! Live life and enjoy ! Don't waste another day worrying about what MAY happen instead move ahead to a new life free from guilt and burdensome rules and unreasonable fear .
I wasted 44 yrs of life being afraid to live it . The last six have been the happiest of my lifetime ,because now I truly express what I feel instead of what the Watchtower Society tells me I should do or not do .
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Sparks are gonna fly in my home
by marriedtoajw inas i've mentioned in a previous post, my wife has been sending mixed signals to me for years on what she does concerning violating jw rules.
what i didn't mention at the time was that she has also gone through gung ho sprees from time to time.
she is now insisting on taking the kids to the hall.
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troubled mind
My Dad was never a JW ,but my Mom was ..... He allowed her to teach the children her religion, and to indoctrinate us even though he thought it was a cullt .
He now blames himself for being weak, and allowing this religion to break up his family . He has seen the harm the Jehovah's Witness religion has caused his own children over the years .
His oldest son was baptised at 16 ,then at 18 lost interest and joined the Military . The Elders announced at the Kingdom Hall that this son was 'Disassociated' .The internal newsletter called the Kingdom Ministry counseled members to sever ties with such ones even with in your own family to shun them . This meant my Mother cut her own son off from normal family activity . This tore her up inside ,but she believed it was what God required of her to be loyal . This shunning policy does not have a time limit it goes on for life ! My Mom missed her sons wedding , birth of her granddaughter and other major events because the Watchtower corparation said it had authority from Jehovah God to lead and feed his people . My Mother died at age 72 ,my brother was 52 at that time .....he felt his REAL mother had died yrs ago . My Father watched the aftermath as I came to my senses and left the religion a few yrs ago . He has seen as my other Brother a baptised JW stop associating with me or my children because I walked away from his faith . We can not have a family dinner because this son and his family will not eat with my family or my disassociated brothers family . My Dad has seen my lifetime of 'friends' turn away from me because I no longer wish to attend the Kingdom Hall . My non Witness Father who is in his 80's cares for my disabled sister who has lived with him her whole life . She also is a baptised JW . Now that she is homebound her Witness "friends' have dried up and seldom come to check on her . She will not sit in on family gatherings with my older brother still to this day . Even though she is not active the inculcated JW teachings continue to poison her natural ability to persue family affection . My Father staed to me not to long ago he wished he had put his foot down years ago when my Mother first got involved with the Jehovah's Witnesses . He wishes he could turn back time and save his family the heartache it has indured because of this religion . PLEASE SAVE YOUR FAMILY THIS KIND OF FATE ........YOUR CHILDREN DESERVE TO BE HAPPY MAKE SURE YOU ALLOW THEM TO REMAIN FREE
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Received a nice facebook message from an old JW friend
by troubled mind in" i really miss you guys ,i hope some day you will come back .
how are you feeling after surgery?
i responded thanking her for her concern ,and totally ignored the 'come back' plea .
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troubled mind
She is not a facebook friend ,she sent a private message .
I am no longer a fader ...I openly celebrate Christmas with house completely lit up this year . The Elders were told two yrs ago to cease and desist any contact/harassment of me by way of certified letter (with copy being sent to local Police station .) Since then I do not think anything has been officially announced ,they just gossip enough about me that most people consider me an apostate
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Received a nice facebook message from an old JW friend
by troubled mind in" i really miss you guys ,i hope some day you will come back .
how are you feeling after surgery?
i responded thanking her for her concern ,and totally ignored the 'come back' plea .
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troubled mind
Snare & Racket ,No I don't play games like that, and I hope I would never play the victim .
My instinct is more along the lines of , " Thank you for being so kind and of thinking of us . I miss you too ! You know my door is always open . I am very happy in my life now ,more than I have ever been, and would not want to change that for anything . Good hearing from you ." ......to me that leaves her wondering WHY I am so happy, when the JWs always say those that leave are sad and miserable .
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Received a nice facebook message from an old JW friend
by troubled mind in" i really miss you guys ,i hope some day you will come back .
how are you feeling after surgery?
i responded thanking her for her concern ,and totally ignored the 'come back' plea .
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troubled mind
That's what I was thinking too ....
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Received a nice facebook message from an old JW friend
by troubled mind in" i really miss you guys ,i hope some day you will come back .
how are you feeling after surgery?
i responded thanking her for her concern ,and totally ignored the 'come back' plea .
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troubled mind
" I really miss you guys ,I hope some day you will come back . How are you feeling after surgery? "
I responded thanking her for her concern ,and totally ignored the 'come back' plea . Our conversation went back and forth for some time just talking about family and such .
She is a young woman that I befriended when she moved into the congregation after marriage . SHe hates living here and never has felt like she fits in because the congregation is divided into cliques . Her MIL is super zealous and over bearing . She is such a nice girl I really do feel for her . I know if I say too much her cult personality will shut her down .
We stayed in contact after I faded and she would stop by with the magazines , but someone told her she had to stop ,and she did . Have not heard form her for about three yrs !
I am so tempted to at least tell her why 'coming back' is not an option ,but I don't want to shut her off in case she is looking for someone to reach out to.
I was thinking of messaging her back and asking How she is coping and letting it progress from there ....? Or should I just let sleeping dogs lay ?
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So glad to be home from the hospital!
by 3rdgen inthis past mon.
i had to have a hysterectomy and some other repairs.
i told the doc that since i'm going under anyway, if you see something that needs fixing, do it....and he went to town!
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troubled mind
((((3rdgen))) I just recently had surgery too , a tumor and ovary removed . I had complications with the pain medication afterwards too . Now is the time to connect with your neighbors ! Don't turn down any offers of help it could be a bridge to new friendships .
I was so lucky that my new group of friends offered to bring food by the first week after surgery . Don't be afraid to open yourself up to a neighbor or a new friend, and let them know you need help (bonds of real friendships are built this way , most people love to help others )
The sadness passes ....you need to rest ,rest ,rest !
Are you over the gas pains yet ? Those were bad ... gasX and Ducolax are your friends .
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My JW sibling & his family are coming over friday night
by TTWSYF inso, at my house we have a christmas party annually.
i told my koolaid drinking bro that i'd tone down the xmas part if he and his family would come and they said 'yes'.. my parents and other siblings are very merrily shocked.. my question to this board is....what should i do or say or not do or say to keep the peace should jw topics arise?.
i guess i'm looking for advice to get them to think without scaring them off.. thanks,.
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troubled mind
I don't think this is the weekend for getting them to "think ". Let actions speak louder than words ! Just be a family have fun keep it light and enjoyable . Let them see what they are missing .